Heed the Call of the Woman
Pauline Schneider 10/9/2011
Whenever I hear from the media or organizations or even individuals that women have come a long way and have so many rights today and can do anything they want to, I cringe.
Yes, we have earned with blood and tears the right to vote, but only after black MEN had been given that right. Yes, we are able to go to colleges and study medicine today, but we are still far outnumbered by the men who run the American Medical Association an organization that worked early on to ban and delegitimize any Midwifery organizations in this country. Yes we now have women astronauts but not one has yet piloted a space shuttle mission, and they still rarely get to do flips for CNN live broadcasts… We have come a long way right behind the men and pretty much have remained right behind the men.
I could go on and on with these “advances,” and I will share two more that I find the most extremely important and perhaps the most disturbing. I don’t mean to demean the great advances that women in the US have made, and they are significant. However, would it be considered total equality gained for all women if only a handful of women made achievements and gains? Not necessarily. If all our wealthy are only 1% of our population, does that make us all wealthy? Of course not. What I mean to do is place the feminist advances in perspective and reveal some real concerns that perhaps we women have not been as successful as we have been told by the media and by the men who pretty much run the show around here. Here are the two main, disturbing reasons why:
Although US women make up 50% of the workforce, slightly outnumber men in population (men are 49.1%,women are 50.9%), [1] and women are often healthier, longer lived, better drivers, better educated, more productive members of our society and quite frequently the healers and care takers of our children and elderly, yet they are still marginalized as a body. The first disturbing example of that is that despite all these major contributions to society mentioned, a woman can only expect to earn a mere 73-75 cents of every man’s dollar, which over a lifetime of work (doing the exact same job as a man would do, for the exact same amount of time, with the exact same skill and ability) spells hundreds of thousands of dollars lost in pay and in Social Security benefits which she needs since she will be living longer than her less hearty male counterpart.
The second disturbing example is that despite women’s participation in the workforce, their many contributions to society and their long livedness, women only make up around 10% of the government that represents all the people of this nation every day. That’s hardly representative of our largest group of citizens and 50% of our workforce! That is not only an outrage, it’s dangerous …. Dangerous in the most unexpected ways.
When women are marginalized this way, their values are equally marginalized. Everything they hold dear and everything they hope for is marginalized and delegitimized . Everything. Being called a "girl" is still an insult, and being emotional and sensitive, well, you know how far that gets a politician... Especially if it's a woman. If the mere act of being female is enough to qualify for dismissal, the ideals of a woman are certainly not any more important than she is. Women have essentially been dismissed from politics. Don't be fooled by the Hillary Clntons. They are the uncle Toms of feminism and are wholly concerned with the ideals of the 90% of the political apparatus, and not the 75% of our society's women and children.
When there are only 10% of you trying to pass laws you can pretty much expect to be marginalized and delegitimized. The Equal Rights Amendment has still not passed after nearly 86 years of trying to get it passed… And I think I heard someone scoff just now…
Every scoff at these legitimate complaints is a marginalization. Imagine scoffing at a man who was outraged that he couldn’t get a decent cup of coffee in the morning. Now imagine scoffing at a woman who couldn’t get a decent political representation in her government. Different kind of scoff, right? Maybe, I’ll bet you commiserated with the man who wanted a good cup of coffee… Who doesn’t? A good cup of coffee is nothing to scoff at, and neither is a government that is representative of its citizens.
But women want more than a good cup of coffee, they need more than a good cup of coffee; they need to be heard and they need to be included. Too often in our culture they are not.
This is easily proven by just looking around the town one lives in, by opening a newspaper, or even turning on the TV. We see the marginalization of women’s ideals constantly and consistently. We see it in the holidays celebrated, both religious and national, in the heroes celebrated, in the kind of society we create with men running the town boards (and the occasional marginalized female who is, however, probably wealthy and has a long familial history in the town), in the police force that we as a society consider appropriate (mostly men with guns and attitudes), in the way we even manicure our gardens with men using loud, smelly (arrogant?) machinery invented by men to make money and not necessarily to make life easier or prettier. All of this constant marginalizing is drilled into our consciousness and it becomes part of psyche. We can't even tell sometimes we are marginalized. It's just part of life, like that planter's wart on our foot or the bunion on the toe you just learn to ignore. But it is still there, and quite prominently in our culture.
Prominent in most towns is the US flag and perhaps a statue or plaque lamenting the loss of or the heroic deed of some local soldier, usually a man, but extremely rarely a woman who no one has heard of though her heroic deeds far outweigh the famous men of similar deeds, like Sybil Luddington who rode further, harder and longer (in a rain storm) than Paul Revere (who stopped for a brewsky and who could blame him?) and she saved far more lives and was only 16 years old.
Not prominent are the parks and playgrounds for our children which really are afterthoughts, tucked away out of sight and sound since the laughter of children is often offensive to the business district occupied mostly by men who must have important discussions without disturbance. Youths on skateboards, since they frequently have nowhere else to play, choose to ride the sidewalks in front of these men’s shops and are often scolded & even arrested for that, many times harassed & bullied by cops. [2] Even the crosswalks are dangerous to cross despite signage advising motorists to slow down and give pedestrians the right of way the speed limits cannot be lowered due to state laws (made by men). The school crosswalks require a crossing guard to prevent auto drivers from plowing down the women’s children which happens often enough to require speed bumps in some towns… Not mine, though. The cost to save the children’s lives is too high… The men have voted it down.
Any woman who has had to deal with men in their male environments has noticed being marginalized. We observe the same things that African Americans observe about their own conditions and treatment, that some things have changed for the better, but so much has not changed at all. When I have to deal with a man I notice that often the man has not heard most of what I have said to him. This usually becomes apparent when the service I am asking for comes out very wrong. Which is all too often. They simply have not listened to the words I said and instead filled in the noise coming out of my mouth with what they wanted to hear… And it’s not an isolated experience, I have witnesses to this and one is my boyfriend who has actually watched it happen. He is the rare man who actually hears and listens to the words coming out of my mouth. He does not marginalize me and values my life and my contributions. He is a rare gem, but I know a few more like him. There is hope! Just last night we both were treated completely differently by a male employee at the Home Depot. Although I was in the front at the help counter , the employee addressed my boyfriend first who was obviously behind me with a cart of goods. My BF indicated that I was the one who needed help. When I was done talking the employee then asked my boyfriend if he needed help… So, he didn’t know we were together, yet he was going to serve the man BEHIND the woman who had obviously gotten to the desk first… (shaking my head) This wasn’t the first time this has happened to me at HD.
There is an even more sinister evidence to the marginalization of women and to their ideals and it is found in the grocery store in the piles of foodstuffs that are filled with poison and pesticides despite the demand s from women to remove the poisons and pesticides so as to protect their children. What women idealize is so often disregarded by the men in the government who are 90% of the majority there. So just like the Home Depot employee, often these men tend to give their ears to the other men who run businesses and want to sell their products, run their factories at low cost, produce all kinds of dirty energy to make money off of, despite the fact that these actions would harm 50% of our nation’s workforce, and about 75% of our entire population (our youth make up 25%) who have no voice in these decisions. As we look around we see the society we live in collapsing from this marginalization of women, the dismissal of what women value and treasure and the blatant neglect of our most vulnerable children, we see it in the failing economy, in the rising levels of Carbon and pollution in the atmosphere, and in the rising cost of dirty, very un-renewable energies. These are deep concerns not only for women, but for the men who love them and who often depend on women to care for them.
How can a woman care for the men she loves when she is so marginalized that her concerns are dismissed by such a small yet powerful minority? How can a woman be an effective citizen and parent when she is denied the economic resources and the political power that her fewer in number male counterparts seem to hoard and luxuriate in?
How can a woman care for her children when she is humiliated by the men who have sworn an oath to “serve and protect”? [3] What’s a woman to do?
It is not an accident that our world has come to this dangerous precipice. When the ideals of women, and when the needs of women are dismissed and ignored long enough in any society, that society at best limps along, miserably and awfully, and at worst it collapses. Just look at what happened to Rome.
Simone deBeauvoir, the great existentialist philosopher and wife of another fairly decent existentialist philosopher, writes in The Second Sex that women are faced by a formidable foe who keeps them downtrodden and marginalized, the foe is the men that they love; their fathers, brothers, husbands and sons. It is, therefore, impossible to wage the revolution that historically has freed people from oppression and that women would need to wage to become genuinely free (and would essentially free men as well!). Such a revolution would mean destroying those we love. Such a thing is impossible for most women, though sadly, many men think nothing of hurting women... Having worked in a women's shelter I have seen first hand what a man can do to someone he allegedly "loves".
There is a Cherokee saying that puts this more plainly:
A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul, so as to unite him with the Source:
Her lowest calling is to seduce, separating man from his soul and leave him aimlessly wandering.
A man’s highest calling is to protect woman, so she is free to walk the earth unharmed.
Man’s lowest calling is to ambush and force his way into the life of a woman.
Every day men are ambushing women in a million different ways and forcing their way into our lives while refusing to hear our voices trying to lead them back to their souls, so as to unite them with the Source. Everyday other men are taking the time to listen and heed the call of the women to find their souls. We see some of those men down on Wall Street now filling the streets and Zuccotti park & making no demands, speaking of no violence, and just expressing their souls' desires for a safer, more caring world. There has never been a more important time for men to heed the call of women and for women to lead them home.
Perhaps the very survival of our species depends on this.
[1] http://2010.census.gov/2010census/data/index.php
[2] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91vcSZv72xk
[3] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPWq9OzUI9o&feature=like-suggest&list=UL
Pauline Schneider 10/9/2011
Whenever I hear from the media or organizations or even individuals that women have come a long way and have so many rights today and can do anything they want to, I cringe.
Yes, we have earned with blood and tears the right to vote, but only after black MEN had been given that right. Yes, we are able to go to colleges and study medicine today, but we are still far outnumbered by the men who run the American Medical Association an organization that worked early on to ban and delegitimize any Midwifery organizations in this country. Yes we now have women astronauts but not one has yet piloted a space shuttle mission, and they still rarely get to do flips for CNN live broadcasts… We have come a long way right behind the men and pretty much have remained right behind the men.
I could go on and on with these “advances,” and I will share two more that I find the most extremely important and perhaps the most disturbing. I don’t mean to demean the great advances that women in the US have made, and they are significant. However, would it be considered total equality gained for all women if only a handful of women made achievements and gains? Not necessarily. If all our wealthy are only 1% of our population, does that make us all wealthy? Of course not. What I mean to do is place the feminist advances in perspective and reveal some real concerns that perhaps we women have not been as successful as we have been told by the media and by the men who pretty much run the show around here. Here are the two main, disturbing reasons why:
Although US women make up 50% of the workforce, slightly outnumber men in population (men are 49.1%,women are 50.9%), [1] and women are often healthier, longer lived, better drivers, better educated, more productive members of our society and quite frequently the healers and care takers of our children and elderly, yet they are still marginalized as a body. The first disturbing example of that is that despite all these major contributions to society mentioned, a woman can only expect to earn a mere 73-75 cents of every man’s dollar, which over a lifetime of work (doing the exact same job as a man would do, for the exact same amount of time, with the exact same skill and ability) spells hundreds of thousands of dollars lost in pay and in Social Security benefits which she needs since she will be living longer than her less hearty male counterpart.
The second disturbing example is that despite women’s participation in the workforce, their many contributions to society and their long livedness, women only make up around 10% of the government that represents all the people of this nation every day. That’s hardly representative of our largest group of citizens and 50% of our workforce! That is not only an outrage, it’s dangerous …. Dangerous in the most unexpected ways.
When women are marginalized this way, their values are equally marginalized. Everything they hold dear and everything they hope for is marginalized and delegitimized . Everything. Being called a "girl" is still an insult, and being emotional and sensitive, well, you know how far that gets a politician... Especially if it's a woman. If the mere act of being female is enough to qualify for dismissal, the ideals of a woman are certainly not any more important than she is. Women have essentially been dismissed from politics. Don't be fooled by the Hillary Clntons. They are the uncle Toms of feminism and are wholly concerned with the ideals of the 90% of the political apparatus, and not the 75% of our society's women and children.
When there are only 10% of you trying to pass laws you can pretty much expect to be marginalized and delegitimized. The Equal Rights Amendment has still not passed after nearly 86 years of trying to get it passed… And I think I heard someone scoff just now…
Every scoff at these legitimate complaints is a marginalization. Imagine scoffing at a man who was outraged that he couldn’t get a decent cup of coffee in the morning. Now imagine scoffing at a woman who couldn’t get a decent political representation in her government. Different kind of scoff, right? Maybe, I’ll bet you commiserated with the man who wanted a good cup of coffee… Who doesn’t? A good cup of coffee is nothing to scoff at, and neither is a government that is representative of its citizens.
But women want more than a good cup of coffee, they need more than a good cup of coffee; they need to be heard and they need to be included. Too often in our culture they are not.
This is easily proven by just looking around the town one lives in, by opening a newspaper, or even turning on the TV. We see the marginalization of women’s ideals constantly and consistently. We see it in the holidays celebrated, both religious and national, in the heroes celebrated, in the kind of society we create with men running the town boards (and the occasional marginalized female who is, however, probably wealthy and has a long familial history in the town), in the police force that we as a society consider appropriate (mostly men with guns and attitudes), in the way we even manicure our gardens with men using loud, smelly (arrogant?) machinery invented by men to make money and not necessarily to make life easier or prettier. All of this constant marginalizing is drilled into our consciousness and it becomes part of psyche. We can't even tell sometimes we are marginalized. It's just part of life, like that planter's wart on our foot or the bunion on the toe you just learn to ignore. But it is still there, and quite prominently in our culture.
Prominent in most towns is the US flag and perhaps a statue or plaque lamenting the loss of or the heroic deed of some local soldier, usually a man, but extremely rarely a woman who no one has heard of though her heroic deeds far outweigh the famous men of similar deeds, like Sybil Luddington who rode further, harder and longer (in a rain storm) than Paul Revere (who stopped for a brewsky and who could blame him?) and she saved far more lives and was only 16 years old.
Not prominent are the parks and playgrounds for our children which really are afterthoughts, tucked away out of sight and sound since the laughter of children is often offensive to the business district occupied mostly by men who must have important discussions without disturbance. Youths on skateboards, since they frequently have nowhere else to play, choose to ride the sidewalks in front of these men’s shops and are often scolded & even arrested for that, many times harassed & bullied by cops. [2] Even the crosswalks are dangerous to cross despite signage advising motorists to slow down and give pedestrians the right of way the speed limits cannot be lowered due to state laws (made by men). The school crosswalks require a crossing guard to prevent auto drivers from plowing down the women’s children which happens often enough to require speed bumps in some towns… Not mine, though. The cost to save the children’s lives is too high… The men have voted it down.
Any woman who has had to deal with men in their male environments has noticed being marginalized. We observe the same things that African Americans observe about their own conditions and treatment, that some things have changed for the better, but so much has not changed at all. When I have to deal with a man I notice that often the man has not heard most of what I have said to him. This usually becomes apparent when the service I am asking for comes out very wrong. Which is all too often. They simply have not listened to the words I said and instead filled in the noise coming out of my mouth with what they wanted to hear… And it’s not an isolated experience, I have witnesses to this and one is my boyfriend who has actually watched it happen. He is the rare man who actually hears and listens to the words coming out of my mouth. He does not marginalize me and values my life and my contributions. He is a rare gem, but I know a few more like him. There is hope! Just last night we both were treated completely differently by a male employee at the Home Depot. Although I was in the front at the help counter , the employee addressed my boyfriend first who was obviously behind me with a cart of goods. My BF indicated that I was the one who needed help. When I was done talking the employee then asked my boyfriend if he needed help… So, he didn’t know we were together, yet he was going to serve the man BEHIND the woman who had obviously gotten to the desk first… (shaking my head) This wasn’t the first time this has happened to me at HD.
There is an even more sinister evidence to the marginalization of women and to their ideals and it is found in the grocery store in the piles of foodstuffs that are filled with poison and pesticides despite the demand s from women to remove the poisons and pesticides so as to protect their children. What women idealize is so often disregarded by the men in the government who are 90% of the majority there. So just like the Home Depot employee, often these men tend to give their ears to the other men who run businesses and want to sell their products, run their factories at low cost, produce all kinds of dirty energy to make money off of, despite the fact that these actions would harm 50% of our nation’s workforce, and about 75% of our entire population (our youth make up 25%) who have no voice in these decisions. As we look around we see the society we live in collapsing from this marginalization of women, the dismissal of what women value and treasure and the blatant neglect of our most vulnerable children, we see it in the failing economy, in the rising levels of Carbon and pollution in the atmosphere, and in the rising cost of dirty, very un-renewable energies. These are deep concerns not only for women, but for the men who love them and who often depend on women to care for them.
How can a woman care for the men she loves when she is so marginalized that her concerns are dismissed by such a small yet powerful minority? How can a woman be an effective citizen and parent when she is denied the economic resources and the political power that her fewer in number male counterparts seem to hoard and luxuriate in?
How can a woman care for her children when she is humiliated by the men who have sworn an oath to “serve and protect”? [3] What’s a woman to do?
It is not an accident that our world has come to this dangerous precipice. When the ideals of women, and when the needs of women are dismissed and ignored long enough in any society, that society at best limps along, miserably and awfully, and at worst it collapses. Just look at what happened to Rome.
Simone deBeauvoir, the great existentialist philosopher and wife of another fairly decent existentialist philosopher, writes in The Second Sex that women are faced by a formidable foe who keeps them downtrodden and marginalized, the foe is the men that they love; their fathers, brothers, husbands and sons. It is, therefore, impossible to wage the revolution that historically has freed people from oppression and that women would need to wage to become genuinely free (and would essentially free men as well!). Such a revolution would mean destroying those we love. Such a thing is impossible for most women, though sadly, many men think nothing of hurting women... Having worked in a women's shelter I have seen first hand what a man can do to someone he allegedly "loves".
There is a Cherokee saying that puts this more plainly:
A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul, so as to unite him with the Source:
Her lowest calling is to seduce, separating man from his soul and leave him aimlessly wandering.
A man’s highest calling is to protect woman, so she is free to walk the earth unharmed.
Man’s lowest calling is to ambush and force his way into the life of a woman.
Every day men are ambushing women in a million different ways and forcing their way into our lives while refusing to hear our voices trying to lead them back to their souls, so as to unite them with the Source. Everyday other men are taking the time to listen and heed the call of the women to find their souls. We see some of those men down on Wall Street now filling the streets and Zuccotti park & making no demands, speaking of no violence, and just expressing their souls' desires for a safer, more caring world. There has never been a more important time for men to heed the call of women and for women to lead them home.
Perhaps the very survival of our species depends on this.
[1] http://2010.census.gov/2010census/data/index.php
[2] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91vcSZv72xk
[3] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPWq9OzUI9o&feature=like-suggest&list=UL
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